So what are the dynamics of online 40+ dating? For me it was the simple truth that at my age I did not want to be propping up bars in the hope that someone would turn up. The other advice you get is to get a hobby and join a club. Again, good advice but what are the chances of meeting an unattached and mutually attractive person this way?

To me, the only sensible choice was to join a 40+ dating website and my decision has certainly been vindicated. Here is an opportunity to meet and chat to hundreds of people looking for exactly the same as you. Not only that, you can take your time before meeting after what is basically an ongoing online vetting process.

Is over 40 dating a game or a hobby? Actually, I don’t care but having nothing to do before Sherlock starts on BBC1 and so I though a brief ramble on my over 40 dating website might be a good idea. If you ever wondered why so much crap is written on websites, it’s because Google reward regular writers with higher search engine ranking. Higher ranking equels more visitors and more visitors equels more subscribers.

The reason you get repeat phrases such as over 40 dating is that this is the word the website owner is promoting in the rankings.

So, apologies that this is nothing to do with the over 40 dating, game or hobby subject. Sherlock is starting.

Watching ‘a question of genius’ on BBC2 and thinking it doesn’t take a genius to be on the show or use a over 40 dating site to find friendship, companionship and love. I mean, what is the downside of trying an online dating site? You get a chance to be anonymous  if you want. Approach those you are interested in and have others approach you. Chat for as long as you like before arranging to meet people.

We all look for something different in a partner and you can search by age, size, income, star sign or pretty much anything else you want. So genius or not, why not try over 40 dating today?

Is it just me being grumpy on the over 40 dating scene who judges people on their  music choice? Music is my passion and my tastes wide, however some music is so bad that it says more about the person that listens to it than it says to me.

Take Diva’s for example! False emotion, spangly dresses and ridiculous verbalisation of perfectly good songs. What sort of nutter likes this dross?  This moves me on nicely to anybody who likes R&B. Wrist slitting bollocks for those who are easily impressed. I would jail anybody making this rubbish and commit to an asylum anybody who liked it. Even the simplest song is ruined by the ridiculous warbling that these losers churn out for the tone death generation. As for rap music, I don’t even want to use the word music! Talentless bozos speaking because they cant sing. Gold chains and no brains is the best I can come up with.

Anxiety and stress

Dating isn’t meant to be boring, adrenaline is meant to kick in, at least a little. Identifying your fears can help you deal with them-:

My date hates me.

We are all unique, funny, warm and charming. (Sound like you?) Even if you are all of those things, you are still going to come across people who just don’t like you. That’s life. Be prepared and move on.

You hate your date.

Well it’s only one night, enjoy the food, the ambience or whatever you can salvage from the situation, and then move on.

I’ll do the wrong thing.

Ever been in the situation where nothing goes right? Did you ever take the first sip of a drink and end up choking and gasping with tears streaming down your eyes? Well welcome to the club, it happens all the time, to err is human. If your date is cool then, relax. If not, aren’t you glad you found out now.

I’ll say the wrong thing

Did you ever make light of a belief, a sport, a religion the list is endless, if you realise your faux pas quickly enough, take a deep breath and move on.

Dating is meant to be fun, relax don’t stress and enjoy.

Avoid the cyber dating stalker trap

Some people are just rude. They say they will call but they don’t. You expect a call to relive the date you have just enjoyed but the call doesn’t come. So after a day you start to text and leave voice messages. Nothing, and so you look them up on myspace and facebook and bingo there they are. You add them as a friend but still nothing and so you start to interact with their friends and ask questions. You are now obsessed, disappointed and just plain angry. All this because some blockhead didn’t want to date again and bottled telling you.

Personally, I abhor rude people and figure that spending any time with them is time wasted. Do the same. Don’t chase and move on to find a person with better manners. Anything is better than becoming a cyber stalker.

I guess the easiest way of rejecting your date is at arm’s length on the telephone. Unfortunately to set this up you probably have to lie on the previous date with a ‘call me and we will arrange something’ exit line.

The best way to do this is to cut down on the body language such as preening, touching and standing in a close proximity. Most people are great at reading signs like this and may well get the hint.

If they don’t get the hint then you may need to spell it out. Do this in a low a key as possible and consider turning on its head. What I mean is “it’s been lovely meeting you but I don’t think I am the person for you. I’ll exit now and leave the field open for Mr/Mrs right.

Never, never tell them they are too fat, short, stupid or bald. Personal comments are entirely unnecessary as the person has done nothing wrong apart from not being your type.

Similarly, do not get into answering twenty questions about precisely why they are not the right person for you. This is at best a dead end and at worst the precursor to a ugly situation that could have been avoided.

Dating over 40 is easier than your think

Dating over 40 is lot easier than it appears to be. Most people believe that once the hit the forty years mark they are no longer left with even a slightest chance to date some one. Some tend to hibernate into a shell, spending lonely evenings all by themselves and others head towards the other extreme. They take refuge to drugs or drinks to get rid of their past memories that keep haunting them.

Hey there!!!! Chill……..at forty life can be far better than you think. You can undoubtedly fancy your chances in the field of dating over forty. Common, you have overseen all your responsibilities well all through your life and now it is your time to relax and enjoy life. So stop brooding over what you have lost and look ahead towards new prospects. You have a sexy body; even if you don’t some work outs can really help you acquire it. You are experienced at the prime time for mature dating.

With the hike in the divorce rate, there are many singles available from among whom you may choose your over 40 dating partner. They might be searching exactly what you have to offer. The best way to search for your matured dating match is to go online. But first you need to know some rule of over 40 dating.

Firstly, when you come across to any over 40 dating site, be sure you do not appear to be needy of desperate. Remember, people interested in matured dating look fro a partner whom they can know gradually. Displaying too much haste may scare your prospective dates away or shift their attention to next eligible single.

Secondly, do not upload a profile picture that may be too suggestive or barefaced, this may scare away good prospective dates. Be sure not to make any unwanted display of your craving for physical pleasure. Be composed, matured in your attitude.

Thirdly, take safety measure to avoid unwanted uncertainties. Do not disclose anything about financial issues be aware of people asking such question. Do not ever agree to meet anyone until you are convinced that you know them well. Meet your date in a public place and let your close associate know about your partner and the rendezvous.

Fourthly, for getting desirable results from your over 40 dating endeavors grow your network and appear to be in demand to arouse the interest of prospective dates. This prevents you from being dependent on a single option and setting depressed if things do not work out.

Lastly, try to be yourself. Do not camouflage as your matured over 40 dating endeavors may lead you to meet your lifetime partner. Let your date know and understand and like the real you.

I myself started a family a little later in life hence my interest

I am over 40 dating and sat watching ‘over the rainbow’ on BBC1. Today I gardened, changed light bulbs and walked the dog twice. Last night my girlfriends family came around for a take away and a slice of cake. so what’s all this got to do with the price of fish? Its that middle bit you get into when you have been dating for a while and you are being integrated into the other persons life. So did I enjoy walking another persons dog, cutting their lawn and changing their lightbulbs all while they are at work. You betcha and I wouldn’t have changed my day for anything at all.