When you’re over 40 and still looking for love some may say that it’s hopeless and you should give up on ever being an a good, stable, strong relationship. Against your better judgment, you still seek to find someone you can call your own. Fine, but where do you start? How do you talk to people? What do you look for? Re-Entering the dating world after being away for a while or just simply because you’ve turned another decade older at 40 can be a tough cookie to swallow for anyone who has thought about it. You’ll have to hear things you never thought would have to listen to when talking to someone on a first sate, you’ll find that maybe your expectations were a little too high, and you might even find that you aren’t who you used to be anymore. Here, you’ll find some tips to help get you situated and on your way to your next, and possibly final, relationship after 40.
- Courage – Have the courage to go out there and look for people you might be interested in. You may have one point been able to easily do this, but after getting older you realize the worries and butterflies pop up in the least opportune moments. Don’t be afraid to go out on a limb for what you want.
- Take it slow – Going on a few public dates, or mere casual lunches might be the best thing that you can do during the beginning of a relationship. Your guard is going to be up and really tough to let down, so when getting acquainted with someone several shorter dates at a public place are more suitable over intimate nights in with wine and a movie. Let the relationship take it’s natural time and don’t force the issue.
- Know your expectations – Don’t think that you can still get that hot model you’ve been drooling over on the internet anymore. That ship has sailed and it’s high-time you brought yours back to port too; realize that you might have to lower your standards a little bit to find the relationship you’re looking for. You have to remember what is best for you at this point.
- Keep It Up – Don’t think that if you don’t find someone after the first 10 dates, 20, or maybe even 30 that you should give up. Stick with it! Dating people is a fun and interesting way to stay social no matter if you’re over 40 or you just turned 21!